Nobody prepares you to become the parent to your parents.
Parent Mode is the playbook for when the role switches on: what to know, what to ask, and what to do next. Free, from someone who’s been there.
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First, know the basics of their life.
Hospitals, home care, senior communities: every path gets easier once you have the base. Most of us don’t, until the day we need it.
Their doctors
Every doctor they see, what each one is for, and how to reach them.
Their medications
What they take, the dose, when, and which pharmacy fills it.
Their insurance
Medicare, any supplemental or drug plan, and where the cards are.
Their money
Where their accounts, income and bills are, without the numbers.
Their documents
Health care proxy, power of attorney, will, and where the originals live.
Who to call
Siblings, neighbors, friends, and anyone already helping.
What they want
Where they want to live, what care they would and wouldn’t accept. Ask before you need to.
Get The Parent File
A free, fillable file for everything above. Fill it in once, share it with your siblings, keep it on your phone.
Then, wherever you are in it.
There's no set order. Some families skip ahead, some circle back, some start in the ER. Start with what's happening now.
Something’s changing
Missed pills, a fall, bills piling up. You’re noticing, and not sure what it means yet.
Helping, near or far
Appointments, medications, and bills, sometimes from another city. You become their advocate in the exam room.
Your role at their appointments Coming soon
Care at home, theirs or yours
Paid help a few hours a week, a family rotation, or moving in together. This is where most family care happens.
Hiring an in-home caregiver Coming soon
Moving a parent in: what to settle first Coming soon
After a hospital stay
Rehab, home health, or straight home. What Medicare pays for, and what happens when it stops.
Questions to ask before discharge Coming soon
When home stops working
More hours of help, assisted living, memory care, or a nursing home. Cost and culture shape the choice, and Medicare doesn't pay for long-term care.
Comparing long-term care options Coming soon
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Why I made this
My mom took care of my dad for years. A few years after he passed, her health declined suddenly, and almost overnight I was the one in charge.
I had to learn it all at once: decoding Medicare, comparing care options, and the hardest part, asking my mom how she wanted to live. I built this so you don't have to start from zero.
If I could go back to the first day, I’d tell myself: breathe. You’ll figure this out. You don’t have to know everything yet.
Jan, founder
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